Have You Ever Loved?


Love is such a universal concept. This simple four letter word in which we each so often use per day. The majority of us believe this concept of love to be what is portrayed through the projections of greatly written novels, scripts, movies and plays. However, the reality of it all isn’t so as it seems. These projections are always something along the lines of giving yourself to another human being. 

Or as the dictionary defines it:

  • a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person.
  • a feeling of strong or constant affection for a person
  • variety of different feelings, states, and attitudes that ranges from interpersonal affection for another person

Do you catch one thing that all these definitions have in common?

for another person

Growing up, the conditions and themes of our society has taught us that in order to truly love, we must feel something for another, instill passion for another, have affection for another, care immensely for another, give ourselves fully to another. While some of this may be true, this collective understanding of what love is, has the majority of us chasing, wandering endlessly and aimlessly in all kinds of different directions in which we have no idea where we are going.

And then we find ourselves trapped in this deep, dark hole.

Wondering why it never works out.

Wondering why we feel so lonely.

Wondering why we keep getting lost.

Wondering what is wrong with me.

Wondering why it is that no matter who we love, and how much we love,

we continue to end up in the same circumstances.

That’s because we weren’t taught what true love really is. 

((((( The art of loving Yourself )))))

Have you ever stopped to slow down through the rapid motions of life to hear that voice deep down inside?

That voice that’s been waiting everso patiently for you to listen to it?

Have you ever asked yourself that perhaps all these concepts that you aimlessly search for and run after in others, is the very thing you are in need to search for in yourself?

Have you ever took into consideration that only, and only when you learn

to fully  love yourself—

all of you,

every cell in you,

every piece that you think is so imperfect,

will another beautiful soul love you the same exact way? 

We thought that getting married, going on a romantic honey moon and having a ring on our finger meant we found true love.

But the increasing rates of divorce today proves us otherwise.

The only real true love that will never abandon you, lie to you, or hurt you

is the love that you have for yourself.

Before we go on to truly love anyone else, we must learn what it means to truly love ourselves.

The best love you will ever find comes from the one staring back at you in the mirror

Only then will a perfect soul manifest their way to you

and love you just as deeply as you love yourself.

I say this in all the most selfless way possible.

So if you thought you’ve been there before,

I humbly hope to ask you again,

Have You Ever Loved?

In Love and in Light,

Sandy Vo

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