There’s something I’ve been recognizing my entire life that every time it happens, it bothers me a little. And I used to do it myself. That’s why today I want to talk a little bit about something special and that something special is YOU.
Have you ever found yourself saying things like this?
Scrolling down Instagram
“Wow, she’s really pretty. I wish I looked like her.”
“Omg, look how gorgeous she is. I wish I was that gorgeous”
“Yeah, my friend is super smart, perfect 4.0, president of every club and so pretty!”
“Damn, look at that model on the magazine, if only I could look like that”
Or looking at millionaires being like
” Wow, I wish I could be rich.”
So now you’re thinking why does it bother me? It bothers me just a little because now I WISH that you could see the strengths that YOU have inside yourself. This is something we do often. We celebrate others and put them on this high pedestal, embracing their “flawless” beauty and their intelligence but at the same time that you are doing this, do you notice what’s happening? You are subtracting the value and the worth from within yourself. By wishing to be someone else, by wishing to look like someone else, you’re not realizing that what YOU have as a unique individual is of far more worth than that other person that you’ve raised to the ceiling.
Sure, the girl next door may be prettier than you, your friend may be smarter than you, Victoria Secret Models may be hot and deemed flawless, the world’s biggest millionaires may be rich and powerful, but guess what? They have their weaknesses too. And truth be told, someone will always be better than you at something.
You can never be the best when you compare yourself to others but you can be the best, when you compare you to yourself. – Sandy Vo
Every time you celebrate someone else you are not only taking away from your own value but you are damaging your inner potential because you are belittling YOUR own strengths and YOUR own beauty. Before you know it, you become a person with little confidence because you see your weaknesses as something larger than your strengths. Let’s switch that effect up.
How do we fix this? Well first let’s raise your strengths and make those weaknesses sink to the very bottom.
When you wake up in the morning, start by thinking:
- What are my strengths? What am I really good at?
- What is my passion? I don’t care if your passion is tying a shoe, if it’s your passion and if it’s what you’re good at, PRAISE IT.
- What do I absolutely love about myself?
- What do I love the most about my body?
Take your answers to those questions and embed them into your head every single day.
Instead of wishing to be like someone else, recognize that each and every one of us is UNIQUE in our very own way. That’s what makes it beautiful because even though to the human eye, one person may look better than another, we’re all actually on the same level because now that other person has something great about themselves that no one else possesses.
It may go something like:
“Okay, I may not be the prettiest but you know what? I have a beautiful freaking heart!”
” I may not have the nicest body but my brains are so powerful it can cut glass.”
It’s okay to admire people. But it’s not okay to subtract away from your own self worth every time you do it. Celebrate others only when you first can celebrate yourself and know that within yourself, you have a different kind of a beauty, a different kind of smart, a different kind of possession of something special that no one else in this world has.
Some key points to find your own self worth and confidence:
- When celebrating others, celebrate yourself.
- For example, “Wow she looks great in that picture.” But in your head, tell yourself ” I look great too” “Wow her body is fit and banging” but in your head, tell yourself “I’m just as banging too” 😉
2. Raise your strengths and sink your weaknesses
- Think about things that you are good at and things you like about yourself. Forget about the things that you are not. Everyone has weaknesses. Some are just better at stuffing it in the closet than others.
3. Wake up everyday RECOGNIZING that you’re unique and beautiful in your very own way
- What makes you really stand out? What makes you special? Hang on to those thoughts.
Wanna know what I think? Here’s what I think. I don’t care who you are, what size you are or what you look like, my honest and most sincere thought is that everyone is beautiful in their very own way. Your mind and body is just begging you to recognize that beauty within yourself. So please, celebrate others but not until you first celebrate yourself. Yeah, you. You beautiful thing. Talk to you soon.
With oober love,